When going through your pregnancy journey, we hear and learn a lot of information about the trimesters. The usual focus is on the first, second and third. But have you heard of the fourth trimester?
When going through your pregnancy journey, we hear and learn a lot of information about the trimesters. The usual focus is on the first, second and third. But have you heard of the fourth trimester?
The fourth trimester refers to the the first three months after birth. It can be a challenging period of adjustment for both parents and baby. With social media setting high expectations for your baby to sleep through the night, the relentless pressure to 'bounce back' and the unsolicited advice from a plethora of sources - it can be a lot.
But don't worry. The first thing to acknowledge is that there is nothing that you, your partner, or your baby are doing 'wrong'. It's perfectly natural for babies to cry, for parents to be frazzled and for your emotions to feel like they're on a never-ending rollercoaster.
Here are some expert tips on how to navigate this crucial time:
Accept that Routines Change
On average, newborns typically sleeps for around 16 to 20 hours a day. This sleep is usually split between day and night in small chunks of time. So, don't feel pressure to establish new routines and strive for a 7pm - 7am sleep for a while. It simply does not happen (for most people, although some parents may have that extremely rare baby that will!). Babies don't start to produce melatonin until after the first month and with so many changes happening as their tiny body grows, there are a lot of adjustments happening, which ultimately make creating a standard routine hard. Take these early days in your stride and look for cues that your baby is ready to feed or sleep throughout the day (and night!)
Take All the Time to Bond with Your Baby!
Use the fourth trimester as an opportunity to bond with your newborn. Don't let anyone tell you to put your baby down, or that you shouldn't attend to their crying or needs! Skin-to-skin contact is an amazing way to nurture your mutual bond. The warm connection of your skin against your babies, combined with your soft heartbeat against their head can provide a safe environment for them to thrive. Enjoy gentle touches and eye contact to strengthen your connection now they're earth-side and promote emotional development for both you, your partner and baby.
Remember - no one ever regrets holding their baby too much!
Seek Support If You Need it
It's important to remember that you're not alone during this challenging time. Mention if you are struggling at your six week check up and make sure that any concerns are raised, logged and progressed if needed. If you have a village around you, reach out for emotional support and practical help. If you do feel alone, or don't have the support network around you, there are apps where you can connect with fellow mums in your area, or Facebook groups can be a fantastic source to share concerns. But do proceed with caution and ensure you join a supportive and collaborative community.
Above all just remember to be patient with yourself and your baby during the transitional period of the fourth trimester. Taker your time, enjoy the moment and be reassured that any struggles or challenges are a temporary phase!
